Even when life is stressful, you can look for glimmers—those moments that make you feel calm and bring more peace and balance to your life.
Imagine it’s early morning. You’re sitting by a window, a warm drink in your hands. Outside, pink and orange hues streak the sky. The world is still. You feel calm and content.
This is a “glimmer”—a moment that brings you joy and peace. Amidst the hustle and bustle of life, glimmers remind us that beauty and tranquility can be found. Pay attention to these moments. They can help lower your stress and boost your well-being.
Understanding glimmers
You may be familiar with triggers. Triggers are events that activate your sense of danger. They make you feel anxious, fearful, or angry. Glimmers are the opposite. They activate your sense of safety. Glimmers make you feel joyful, peaceful, or relaxed.
The term “glimmers” was coined by Deb Dana , a licensed clinical social worker. She introduced the term in her book “The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy.”
The polyvagal theory , developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how the nervous system responds to stressors. According to the theory, there are 3 main responses: fight or flight, collapse, and social engagement.
The fight or flight response happens when you feel a sense of danger. Your body gets ready to either fight or run from the threat. When the threat feels overwhelming, or you can’t fight or run away, you may freeze or shut down instead. This is the collapse response. But when you feel safe, you can use your social skills to connect with others. This is the social engagement response.
Glimmers can help you shift to social engagement mode. Glimmers are the cues that tell your nervous system you are in a friendly and supportive environment. They are moments that elicit a sense of safety, connection, or joy. They bring calm to your nervous system and signal your body to relax.
The benefits of noticing glimmers
Paying more attention to your glimmers can boost your overall well-being. It’s a form of self-care that helps balance your nervous system. It also helps you cope with the challenges of life. When you actively look for glimmers, you may notice that you feel:
Easing stress and feeling more optimistic doesn’t only boost well-being. It comes with a host of other health benefits, as well. These include a lower risk for high blood pressure and stroke, along with better sleep, digestion, heart health, and immunity—just for starters.
Pinpointing your unique glimmers
Glimmers are personal. They are the things that make you feel happy and calm. You can find glimmers in small moments every day. A glimmer could be:
Finding more glimmers
When you notice a glimmer, pay attention to how your mind and body respond. Do you feel happy or calm? Did your shoulders relax? Make a mental note. Or you can go a step further and bring more glimmers into your life. Here are some ways to focus on and find more glimmers:
Finding your glimmers won’t take away all your stress. And focusing on your glimmers is not about ignoring life’s challenges. Rather, it’s a way to balance hardships with moments that uplift you. By noting and appreciating glimmers, you can nurture a feeling of wellness in all parts of your life.
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This article was written by Keleigh Somes, edited by Gail Olson, and clinically reviewed by Elizabeth Thompson, MPH, RDN, on July 21, 2024.